I have observed over the years many people: friends, family, acquaintances who have claimed to long for more out of life. But, the funny thing is, most of them do not believe that they can have better so they don’t even attempt to desire such a thing. It is a strange and paradoxical thing to watch someone long for something while at the same time see that an actual desire for it is absent.
I have found in my research and study of success and the principles that lead to success, that we must believe we can have a thing before we can ever truly desire that thing and we must desire the thing in order to start moving in the direction of acquiring the thing. Desire and belief are very closely related in the achievement of goals and overall success. Yet, it seems more often than not that those attempting to better their life are lacking one or the other, often desire in its fullest and truest form. I am going to write more on belief and the other positive emotions soon, but let’s start with where it all begins; desire.
To me desire appeared at first to be as many things are these days, something that was so simple that I of course must understand all there was to desire with just the basic knowledge that I have gained through living. I have since found this to be very far from the truth. Desire is a very large topic once we begin to explore it further and analyze its true nature. As I have mentioned in other posts like, Success – Where to Start, this is what I like to do: I find the deeper levels of things that go beyond the surface meaning. I believe it is an integral part of success to fully examine all aspects of success and it should become a daily habit for us all.
You have to desire something, anything really, before you will begin to take any action and as we all know action is required to do, well, anything! For example you can be hungry and do nothing about it, just sit and continue to work while ignoring the feeling. It isn’t until you begin to desire food that you take action towards eating and satisfying your bodies need for food. Once you decide, “I want to eat” then the wheels begin to be put in motion. Noticing the fact that you have a need does not help you satisfy that need, what helps you satisfy that need is desiring to satisfy your need and then, of course, a series of other steps e.g. believing in your ability to satisfy the need, taking action towards satisfying the need, etc. This decision to desire is something we do so automatically that we tend to over look it and that is why it is so important to examine self and dig deeper into your understanding of “what is”.
To truly desire something we must take time to first mentally acknowledge that we want something-that is where desiring begins, in the mind; it is a feeling of wanting something that arises within us. Once this has been accomplished it is now a matter of stoking the fire and causing the desire to grow larger and larger until it is an all consuming, burning desire. As Napoleon Hill states in the quote we began with, you have to desire to be and to do in order to stop being a dreamer and start being someone who lives the life of their choosing. To be real with you I don’t want to live my dreams because some of them are pretty messed up. I desire to live the life I create, consciously, while awake and aware, that is one of my desires; and I believe if you ever want to make it from day dreamer to day doer it should be yours as well. Stop dreaming and start living, start doing, start to desire and build your desire until it is so large that you have to have it, it is all you think of, and you feel this driving force inside of you pushing you towards accomplishing your desire.
We all wish for things, we all daydream, we all long for something better or something different at some point in our life but the ones who actually get it are the ones who stop wishing, stop daydreaming, stop longing and start to desire and act on their desire. I leave you with a question, what do you dream about that you should start desiring?
About the Author:
Christopher A. Aseltine has over 15 years of entrepreneurial experience across several different industries. For the past 9 years he has been delving into the world of self-help and success. He has always had a passion for helping others, counseling and helping friends and family from a young age. Christopher has decided to take the knowledge and experience he has gained over the last decade and a half and present it all in one place in order to reach and help the broadest audience possible.
Christopher is married to his wife, Nicole, with two children, Ariana and Ace. He enjoys music and plays several instruments. His life’s passion is business and marketing. He is enthusiastic, fun-loving, and can sometimes be a bit over the top, although those that know him well might say always over the top. His hope and goal with Mental Impressions is to use that passion and enthusiasm to serve others well.